Written By Om Singh
“Life is a balance of holding on & letting go”– Rumi. Life, in many ways, is nothing but a game of balancing its baronies while keeping your happiness quotient at optimum levels. Remember going to circuses in your childhood and clapping at the clowns who walked the tightrope making sure to balance their pace and movements? Adulthood is nothing more than camouflaging your fear as a feeble smile, pursuing your goals, constantly battling the pain of letting go of something or someone and dithering what to do next.
In a bid to understand the intricacies of life, we often forget the meaning of a balanced life. Stress, forced monotony and a sense of boredom are some of the outcomes of the false narratives. It is no longer a covert fact that a balanced life is crucial for both mental as well as physical health. So, is there a way to bring back balance in your life? Is there a way to be goal-oriented and yet be happy with little things in life?
Here are 11 Mindful tips to achieve a balanced life:
Envy is the purest form of human emotion. If you are negative and spiteful of your situation, then it is impossible for you to attract abundance in your life. Gratitude has the power to demolish negative influences, false beliefs, and greed. Start journaling from today onwards and write down the things you are grateful for. Past hurts and betrayal, sometimes, hinders your progress and leads to a stressful life. However, when you decide to move on, you then realize the worth of little joys in life and appreciate their existence in your life.
Self-love is about realizing your worth, and embracing your insecurities. In personal and professional relationships, we often give too much of ourselves and destroy our own boundaries. Remember, how you let others treat you is the direct reflection of your own self-worth and self-love. Letting people walk all over you gives them a freedom to treating you in the most undeserved way, which leaves you feeling stressed and unloved. In order to achieve your life’s purpose, you need to have a clear headspace and this is why self-love is important. Set boundaries, learn to say no, and cut off people who are a threat to your mental peace.
Nothing helps your mental as well as physical health better than a natural rush of Endorphins. A healthy lifestyle comprising daily workout regime, skincare routine, meditation, and walks in nature helps combat tiredness, heals physical ailment, and improves gut functionality. All these positive factors put forth a cumulative effect on your social behavioral patterns, communication skills, and the way you conduct yourself. So, start incorporating few exercises in your daily routine, stay hydrated, and stop going to the burger joint every second day.
Shun Negative Patterns
Your upbringing plays a huge role in determining your life patterns and emotional spirals. However, this is not your fate and you can fix these patterns at any point for a balanced life. Growing up, if you saw your parents sharing poor relationship bond, friends who were people pleasers, or you attracting the same emotionally unavailable people, then probably it is time to change your patterns. Start by changing your social circle, meditate to center your emotions, stop pleasing people by comprising your own ethics, and lastly do not follow any failed relationship lessons.
There are studies proving a direct co-relation between your gut health and mental health. The gut micro biome or the god bacteria colony breaks down food, helps in nutrient assimilation, and affects your natural bodily function like sleep, mood, and digestion. So, now you know why a troublesome poop in the morning disturbs your mood for the rest of the day. How do you fix the gut for a happy life? Start eating healthy, reduce consumption of heavy antibiotics, include green leafy veggies, and drink tons of water.
The key to a balanced like is to not bite more than you can chew. Meaning, life will never stop throwing curve balls at you, so the antidote is to take up few things at a time, and start setting priorities. The first step to doing that is to make a list of important things every single day. Always ask yourself, “Is it an important task and if I procrastinate, will it hurt me in any way? Go ahead and number the activities in order or priority, set deadlines for your own self, and execute. This shall keep you sane and going.
When the idea of perfectionism exceeds its limit, it becomes a disorder. Successful people develop the trait of an overachiever at a very young age, when most of their time was spent in gaining good grades at school and probably keeping a tab on their under-age competitors at the baseball school. However, if this behavioral pattern is left unchecked, it can turn into a negative spiral of jealousy. As you age, your responsibilities at both work and home mushrooms and therefore, it is important that you shun the idea of perfectionism and focus more on achieving tasks with a calm mind.
Technology has blessed with us so many facilities to ease up our lives. However, it has also raised the expectation of being accessible to people at any time of the day. Many a times, you feel like switching off your phone and stay in the moment or just shut off your mailbox and feel free of some extra work responsibilities. The best way to detox from the radiations of modern day technology is to set time for everything. For instance, do not send emails on a Sunday and set wrong expectations, or if you are out with family, do not check your phone or reply to texts.
Mindfulness & Meditation
Meditation is a lot different from your regular exercise routine or a jogging session. Meditation is about finding yourself, attain higher consciousness, and finally bring heart & soul into a harmonious union. According to medical reports published on National Institutes of Health, meditation helps in the activation of parts of the brain that stores emotions, and reduces the size of brain that induces feeling of self-sabotage. Moreover, a 30 minute of meditation out in the nature catalyzes the secretion of melatonin, which promotes good sleep and better mood patterns.
A Little TLC
When was the last time you visited a massage parlor for a back therapy or a beauty salon for a hair cut? There is nothing wrong with pampering yourself, investing some hours on your body, and looking great in the moment. When you look good, you feel good and when you feel good, life seems easy on all levels. Go to a salon and get your hair fixed, nails done or simply get a nice oil massage. Working on oneself is the greatest and most fruitful investment you can ever make.
Saving the last spot for the best – Vacation is an ultimate way to relax your senses and invigorate your soul with new people and experiences. When you visit a new destination, the newness in the air relaxes your mind and lets you embrace your inabilities with ease. Stressful daily life and every day cacophony blocks abundance and happiness from coming into your life and this is why it is important that you take a break from the discord and go find yourself. Nowadays, vacations are more about seeking good health while on a go and therefore, people prefer options like yoga retreats, detox vacations and wellness programs over regular holiday options.
A balanced life comes with little effort that goes in the right direction.
Om Singh is blogging at Retreat Kula, a website that offers best yoga retreats and yoga teacher training for yogis around the world. He is always on the lookout for interesting places to visit. It took him 25 years of his life to realize where his true calling lies, but once that was done, there’s been no looking back. Since the last ten years that he is on the go, He is sharing his travel experiences by writing about them.